Anxiety During the Coronavirus: Part 11, What do You Want?

While I took the above photo and agree with the sentiment, I’m in disagreement with the semantics. We learn so much more when we are advised what to do rather than what to not do. Likewise, we feel better when we think of doing a good thing rather than not doing a bad thing. I remember watching a little boy running at a pool and the father said “Walk” I was so impressed. As a bystander “Walk” felt so much better than hearing him yell “Don’t Run.” Most importantly the child did precisely as he was told immediately and I’m sure he felt better than if his father had yelled “Don’t Run.” 

I’d like for you to notice how you feel as you say these words: 

Don’t Give Up Keep Going Going Strong

Don’t Be Scared Be Brave Being Brave

Stop Being So Negative See the Upside

Don’t Go Out  Exercise, Sit Outside, Wear a mask when out getting essentials

Most of you noticed that the words in the middle or to the right felt better. Not only that, they are more motivating.

As you take on the challenges of the Coronavirus/COVID-19 think about what you want to do. That is, how would you like to behave differently? How do you want to think? Be realistic with how you want to think. Remember that positive thoughts are only helpful if you believe they are true. When you change what you do and how you think you will almost certainly feel better. But it can also be helpful to consider how you want to feel while considering how your actions and perspective will make you feel better. Look for others who are making the best of this situation.  Consider writing about this and revisit your goals for thinking, doing, and feeling better!

Jennifer L. Abel, Ph.D. author of: Active Relaxation, The Anxiety, Worry & Depression Workbook, Melt Worry & Relax Card Deck, and Melt Anxiety & Relax Card Deck for Kids